A time to dance…

Last week I shared insights with you about what some public political faces revealed about their potential personality strengths and challenges. I shared how faces, even of public figures, can give us clues as to if their words are indeed matching their thoughts and potential behavioural patterns. I hope, especially if you are Canadian, those insights helped you.

While I was sharing those political face insights with you last week, I was also attending a number of events and speaking at a couple as well. Being around so many people over most of the days of last week and being the people watcher that I am, I observed some things that I thought I’d share with you.

One of the things that came up over and over again was the assumptions we make of other people’s behaviour or motivations for their behaviour. Typically at larger events, you will have at least one speaker or host who is tasked with charging up the audience at one point or another during the event. More often than not, that person chooses to get everyone to move, often dance to get everyone in a happy place, move their body, mingle, etc.

Every time I’m at an event and this scenario starts, I watch people. 

The leader is channeling their inner Captivator (sometimes with more ease than others). All of the Captivators in the room light up and vie for attention and space, the Nurturers move a little and say “ah, look how much fun this is for everyone,” because they care that others seem to be feeling good, the Sages are visibly uncomfortable (not because they care about if others are looking at them as the host will often say when they preface the dancing [“Just do your thing, no one is watching or cares what you look like.”] but because they just don’t overtly show emotion or dance in public because it is not in their nature to be that overt in public and the Royals are completely uncomfortable because they came to the event with one expectation and now they are being thrown a curveball and that is too much for them, not to mention the drastic shift in energy in the space that they have to adjust way too quickly to and that they are most likely dressed up and poised and can’t bear the thought of being sweaty, or disheveled in public.

Now I know that organizers and hosts have nothing but good intentions when they incite the dance, but I don’t believe that they are fully aware of the impact of that choice on all of the archetypal personalities in the room, and I think that can be a fatal flaw in this event agenda design and thinking.

There is a time and way to dance and/or create movement at events that allows all archetypes to be honoured. You are not taking a Captivator out of her comfort zone if you ask her to dance but you are taking at least two others out of theirs. That could be half of your audience you are affecting.

If the point is to get people to move a little, then there are ways to allow all archetypes to adjust to moving on their own. For example, organizers could entertain attendees with something witty that induces a chuckle and creates a buzz of energy or get them up to ask questions of strangers where there is moving around the room without actually dancing. Play music during breaks and invite people to dance if they want to. Then Captivators and Warriors can move openly and the other archetypes can join in as they acclimatize.

So much of truly connecting with others is showing that you are very aware of who they are and what their needs are. It is not that hard to create scenarios that honour as many archetypes in the room as possible. It does take some creativity and planning but the gains you make by truly seeing others can be exponential!

If you’d like to learn more about how you can better read a room and create events and experiences that touch everyone as equally as possible, then reach out to me here. 



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