When The Grasshopper Schools the Sensei…

I wanted to share a humbling experience with you.

The other day I was driving in the car with my daughter and we passed a young girl walking down the main street of our town. The girl was a full figured girl quite proudly wearing very tight pants and a crop top.

I made a comment about how she was dressed remarking with my own bias about whether or not the outfit was appropriate or flattering.

My daughter, Jaide, turned to me and said, “Mom, I don’t see that at all. I wish I had the courage she has to wear something like that. That takes strength.”

Despite my reservations on what I may not want to see a young girl wearing in public, no matter her size, Jaide had a point. I was seeing what was on the surface and not looking at the intention that was behind this girl’s wardrobe choice. Indeed, her intention very well could be one of courage… a statement saying ‘I love who I am and I am strong enough to wear whatever I want. And I don’t care if you judge me, because I love myself more than I care about your opinion.’

If I’m being honest, Jaide did scold me a bit, saying, “Mom, you should know better. You see beyond the surface all the time when you read faces.” And she was right!!!

That’s the point of this story and the lesson. There is always something deeper than what we see on the surface. Intentions are so much more telling than perceptions. It is only in the digging deeper to explore intentions that we have the capacity to decide if we should change our perceptions of people and situations.

I do this everyday in my work… look at faces and see the depth of people and how they can understand their innate intentions to create the life and relationships they want. Sometimes, even I have to be reminded to do this all the time, not just when I’m working.

We all are not perfect all the time. We all forget to see depth sometimes but that doesn’t mean it’s not there and it’s not worth looking for.

I challenge you to see something or someone differently today, to look beyond the surface, to contemplate the intention instead of the initial perception and see if maybe, just maybe, you learn something new about that thing, that person or even yourself.


Michelle Butt

P.S. If you would like some guidance looking deeper to make changes in your life or relationships, as always, I’m here.

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